One of the kids has decided to go back to school. This is not the time to be asking parents for money – especially big money like college expenses. But he says that he can get a Pell grant and it won’t cost anything but books and gasoline. I somehow doubt that, but am willing to look into it.
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About a year ago I loaned Sherri some money because she was in a real bind. She had cashed her paycheck and taken the money home, left her purse in the living room and went to bed. Sometime during the night, one of her kids took all the cash from her purse and took off. The brat didn’t just take a couple of $20 bills, he took her entire paycheck and didn’t leave her a single dollar.
That meant she could not pay her electric bill, her car payment or go grocery shopping for a whole week. That was heartless and unforgivable to do that to your mother, but that’s what kids do when they are desperate for cash. And the sad thing is that she has two sons and isn’t sure which one did it.
So I loaned her the $400 and told her I could wait a month or two to get it back from her. Now I just realized its been almost a year and she’s never paid me back. I am going to have to find a gentle way to remind her that I want my money back.
Gift wrapping is a lost art. When I was a kid, getting a gift was a big deal. The wrapping was usually very elaborate. Fist, the gift was placed in a large square or rectangular box. Then a special patterned paper was used to wrap the box. Then a ribbon was wound around the box and a fancy bow, sometimes adorned with ornaments, was the final touch. Every gift was also accompanied by a greeting card. The best cards were Hallmark cards. The other cards were cheaper and considered inferior to Hallmark.
When we opened the gifts, we did not tear into the wrapping. We gently removed the ribbon, saving the bow, and then gently pulled the wrapping paper loose. Sometimes if the paper was in good condition it was salvaged and reused at a later date. Even the boxes were knocked down and saved for later use.
And most important, even if the gift was not exactly what you wanted, you were expected to display a look of surprise and gratitude. A proper thank you was expected and putting the item to use or shared with others with an acknowledgement to the giver was the proper thing to do.
One of my cousins has been posting one or two lines from hit songs as her Facebook status. I never know if what she posted is what she is thinking or if it is just words from a song that she likes. Most of the time they are very dramatic, and could be taken as a sign that she is thinking of suicide or taking off and leaving. It is very upsetting when I first read it, then some of her friends make jokes and I realize that it is a song or something the kids just say these days.
I suppose if it is from a song that she likes she might see some relevance of the words to her life. But it is so confusing.
Well today is the first day of school and I’m sure the teachers will already be looking forward to Friday. The first week of school usually either goes smoothly or the children are complete monsters because they’re not used to sitting still unless it’s in front of a gaming system.
It won’t take them long to get back into the routine of school again. I remember when my children were still at home and started school. It was a great day for my wife and I but the kids left with long faces. Usually by they had big smiles on their faces when they came home. Either that or the same miserable look they had that morning. Oh well, it’s like I explained to them, if you start your day with a good attitude then the day will probably go good but if you don’t, don’t expect to have a good day.